Waiting is one obvious form of anticipation. This article considers waiting for death.
Drea, a mother whose five-year-old daughter was diagnosed with a virulent form
of brain cancer, experiences a shifting anticipatory terrain as death looms large.
Calling upon phenomenology, I ask two primary kinds of questions that connect
time, narrative and relationality in considering Drea’s experience of waiting. First,
I ask what Drea is waiting for and what kind of time horizon this waiting opens up.
My second question is less obvious for an article on anticipatory time: who does she
wait with? To put this phenomenologically: how might we consider ‘waiting with’ as
a form of experience? I bring to bear phenomenological considerations of narrative
time, drawing especially on Carr, as well as Nancy’s phenomenology of relationality.